Are They Lying To You?
You must trust a friend or lover utterly. Any amount of doubt will slowly grow and poison your relationship. If you see or hear them lie to others, how will you believe anything they say to you? The simple answer is that you can’t! Oh, sure, you try; you pretend that someone who lies to evade work, obligations, bill collectors, that one would never lie to you about where they were or with whom. Wow, you’ll be so shocked when the truth arrives!
Look, I hate to burst your bubble, but anyone who lies, cheats or is dishonest with others will sooner or later do them to you. You aren’t sacred, or protected by some godly charm. If you haven’t caught them yet, its likely just a amatter of time, or they haven’t had a reason to make you a victim of their propensity to fudge the details. Being a dishonest sleaze is habit forming, apparently!
Now here’s the wicked part. Even if you suspect your friend or lover is a lying scumbag, you are obligated to act like they aren’t, until you have real evidence. You could be wrong or overly nervous, especially if you’ve been screwed over by someone before! Any hint that you don’t trust someone will poison the relationship if they aren’t doing any lying or sleazy thing, and if they are, you’ll just make them work harder to hide the truth if you prematurely blurt out your suspicions.
So what should you do? Simple. Be vigilant and pay attention, and be patient. Sooner or later, they’ll slip, and you’ll have them. Just don’t lie and deny the evidence. A liar or cheat won’t likely have a sudden change of heart when caught, and work to become a saint just for you. But while you’re on this subject, maybe you should take stock of your own track record. How many lies do you tell? Are you guilty of being a turd to others? Maybe you’d be wise to clean your own house a bit too? Before you get caught? Just a thought.