Free And Critical Advice Is Only Good To Avoid
If everyone you know is constantly telling you how terrible your decisions are, you might be a complete loser! On the other hand, you might just need a much better group of friends and relatives! I can’t tell you which is which, but I can tell you this: an endless stream of beat down isn’t likely to help you do better in life!
First off, people tend to get defensive and stubborn when criticized. You may suspect, (or even know!) that what they’re telling you is correct, but you aren’t about to give them the satisfaction of admitting it! Most humans would rather drive off the cliff than do that. But there’s a worse problem with tolerating the constant barrage of criticism, no matter how correct, insightful or deserved it is.
What that is will seem obvious, but apparently isn’t; under continual attack and abuse, you lose the ability to think coherently. Reflection takes peace and quiet. Reconsidering your path in life takes concentration and effort, and being ripped as a dunce endlessly won’t aid that! No one ends up in a hole overnight, and no sudden revelation will get you out of it either.
You certainly won’t fix your mess by listening to free and unsolicited negative advice from others either. Likely a close look at their lives would show why they aren’t qualified to offer advice to a lizard! A person in need of redirection needs a lot of quiet contemplation. Get away from the critics, go walk in the park or the woods, and think about your life in a slow, measured way. You do this enough, you’ll find new dreams and answers. You’ll likely figure out who you need to avoid too. Permanently!