Do You Even Know What You’re  Looking For?

What do you want in life? Do you wish to be loved? By whom? How? What sort of person might you find desirable? What will you expect of them? Are you sure any of what you think is really what you need?

What are you offering in return? How hard are you willing to work to find and maintain this love? What are you truly capable of giving? Can you do better than what you’ve done before? Do you think you can give all you’re capable of?

Have you let your past failures and misadventures beat you down, to the point of giving up? Why? Did someone tell you loving another would be easy? If you haven’t quit trying, are you acting like a kamikaze regarding love, plunging blindly into each new relationship with no hesitation, but also no thought?

Have you become so hardened that even the sexiest person with the character and willingness to love of God would meet with rejection at your bitter hands? It should have dawned on you before now that love is a bit harder than you once imagined; has it? Are you still wandering blindly in the wilderness, lost and disillusioned?

It’s more complicated than you thought, isn’t it? You need to gain some understanding before you fail worse. Who are you? What does your soul need? Start here, then work through all the other questions above. To find something, you need to know what you’re looking for. Love is no different. When you can honestly answer these questions, you’ll have a much better chance of finding the person you need. You aren’t finding anything of worth until then! You can’t share you heart until you find it either. Get busy and look!

Jack