Do You Really Want Honesty From Others?
If a stranger walked up to you on the street, and said, “Hi! I’d like to be your friend!” or maybe, “Say, I’d like to know and love you” you’d either dial 911, pee yourself, or run away, wouldn’t you? You know only a crazy, deranged psychopath woule do something so insane, right? Well consider this; how many times have you cried out for a bit of honesty, or prayed for someone to declare themslelves to you?
Ah, you only want someone you want to be so forthright. The rest can go jump off a bridge, can’t they? So, you lied, when you said you wanted honesty? Or maybe you’re confused, or just didn’t think it through? The frank truth is that despite your lofty declarations of eagerness to hear people speak from the heart more, you really are afraid of such honesty. You have a million exceptions to the list of who you’d welcome to be honest, it’s not funny.
Understand this; when some one blurts out, “I want to be your friend” or “I love you” it puts you on the spot. Are you going to pee on them, be mean and cruel, belittle their supposed love? Run away? Lie? You’re terrified of the responsibility! Will you be eager to at least try to respond to them, to care for them or love them? Or will you send them away, brojken hearted and alone. Sucks, doesn’t it?
It’s easier to hide in the basement, and never hear the offer, to never be put on the spot, to never have to grow up and love someone! If people don’t declare their interest, their willingness to be part of your life, you don’t have to be a turd and say no. The sad news is that pretty much everyone else feels the same. This is why the person you’re dying to meet won’t take a chance and open the door for you either! There’s not nearly enough honesty in human relationships, and you’re doing your part to keep it that way. Are you sure this is what you want? Then maybe you need to do something to help out? Just a suggestion.